"WHO IS BUYING YOUR CLOTHES?"

Happy New Year!

This is for all my men out there!  I am interested to know who is buying your clothing? Do you like what you see?  Is it a true reflection of who you are and what you need your clothing to say about you?

Recently, I met a male client who has felt lost because all of his clothing or alot of his clothing purchases were made by someone in the middle!

That someone in the middle was his partner and then friends sometimes as well.  I have just started working with him and the challenge that many clients face is to define or re-define who am I... It is not my role to dictate who a person is - meaning what is their clothing personality.  It is a job we share in this process that you as the client help to define yourself through your personality and preferences.

How empowering is that?  I believe and feel that clients attain a higher level of feeling successful when we have completed their process of transformation because they know what has happened and how to maintain it for themselves.  That is the key - that they do it for themselves and not give that power away to someone else to decide what they are going to look like that day.

If you are thinking, well that sounds easy for her to say, well it is not an easy part of the process.  Sometimes, it is the most difficult part to open ourselves up to.  Perhaps it is societal expectations, spousal/partner expectations, our kids, our parents, our upbringing... I could probably keep going on, but it would be all what others feel are best for us - not what we feel is best for us.

My most humbling experience within this process of helping determining an individual's clothing personality was when I purchased some items for my husband, brought them home all excited for him and he looked at them, snickered and said, I really don't like anything here!  I instantly became threatened and tried to tell him that he needed to look at them more closely, then he would see the possibilities... He turned gently and said, they are not me and isn't that what you tell clients that they shouldn't wear what isn't them!  Busted!  Lesson learned.  Fast forward, I was shopping for myself for jeans over the holidays and came home with a new pair for myself and my husband said, what about me??? I looked at him gently and said, you need to be with me so you can choose what you feel good in! 

If you are struggling with what to buy when you are shopping and feel like you have no idea what would suit you or what is in style, I would love to help you.  Please feel welcome to visit my website at: www.puttingittogether.ca and click on services, personal and then special packages.